Thursday, April 15, 2021

Thursday Night

Granddaughter #3

From mid-March through mid-July, my family sees at least seventeen birthdays. I had thought maybe I would be able to attend all of the celebrations in person this year; but after drinking a cup of coffee (which cleared my mind), I realized that would be impractical and I could possibly wear out my welcome. 😄 

12 candles

With that said, I have been able to get in on the party for this week and it's been fun. Our birthday girl wanted a Brownie Pie instead of cake. In her household the party, with candles and singing, begins early (shouldn't all birthdays start out with cake for breakfast?!!!)

Sandy's cross stitch that inspired me 

On the heels of that special occasion, I got to meet yet another blogging friend in person! Sandy of Home Ec Major and I have been blogging friends for going onto three years. She was the impetus for my return to cross stitching in August 2018. Although I can't find it in me to concentrate with a needle and floss these past several months, we share other interests that have kept us commenting on each other's blog.

Sandy and Gus

She lives within an hour's drive of where I've been staying this week. Even though it was raining steadily all the way as I drove unfamiliar roads, I found her and Gus waiting for me as I pulled into the driveway this morning.

For those of you who, like me, have been intrigued with the snapshots of her home, I will assure you the place is truly fascinating. Full of charm, quality decor, and a mesmerizing floorpan, Sandy's beautiful home tour delighted me thoroughly. 


Gus, good watchdog that he is, barked at me a lot when I first arrived, but that's what he's supposed to do, right?! Then after a few minutes he decided I was okay and before long he wanted to be friends with me. Perhaps he caught a scent of my granddog, Tobie, which told him I'm a dog person. Anyway, he settled into the chair with Sandy while she and I talked about home decor, living on a bayou (yes, she does!!), family, and faith. We even got to conclude our visit with prayer for each other. Then as I left she sent me off with a bag of wonderful cookies.

view from the last pew on the main floor

This week I've also had the thrill of sitting at the back of the church my son's family attends, watching the choir and orchestra rehearsal. I was in this church on Easter Sunday, too. It's a beautiful place and with each visit I meet more good people.

On the subject of where I am with the grief process, I am reading Rick Warren's The Purpose Driven Life, What On Earth Am I Here For?  The book first came out in the year 2000 but I just never got around to reading it until now. 

Now that I'm no longer a married woman with my schedule, meal plans, and social life centered around my husband, I'm going through an identity crisis of sorts. Not sure what I'm supposed to be doing or what my aim or goals should be. All I ever really wanted to be was a wife and a mother. The Lord graciously gave that to me, beginning at the age of 20. Here I am now, 50 years later, feeling a little like the rug has been pulled out from under me and like a deer in the headlights. I am expecting this book will help me get set onto whatever it is I should be doing in my remaining time here on earth.

The Lord is telling me I have no reason to be fearful (although I have to be reminded of that from time to time). He sends me messages of comfort every single day through scripture study, people, circumstances, and even through this, in the bedroom of my granddaughters:

"God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and love and a sound mind." II Timothy 2:9

Until next time, grace and peace.


  1. It makes my heart feel good to read that you are okay with being realistic about celebrating all the birthdays, and that you got to celebrate a granddaughter's. And you got to meet Sandy?!?! What a pleasure. It's so fun to see a picture of her here on your blog. To see her and Gus through your camera lens. :)

  2. OH, what a wonderful post... Happy Birthday to Lydia! So happy you were able to be there for her special day. I am sure she loved having you as well. And for you to get to meet Sandy and Gus! How marvelous!! I can imagine that was a great time...I would love to meet her and see her beautiful home too. What a blessing for both of you!! So glad you are able to visit your son's family's church too, and I pray that you will meet more and more people as time goes by and that you will indeed find your new niche in life. God certainly isn't finished with you...He still has great plans for you. They are just different than what you envisioned they would be, but He is always always by your side and helping you face each new challenge. I kind of wrote about this in my blog today. Yes, God does give us a spirit of "power, love and a sound mind"....we just have to allow Him to use it to bless us and move us forward to the next step/level. Grace and peace to you as well today. (((hugs))) too!

  3. How wonderful that you got to meet another blogging buddy in person, Barbara! It's good that you are getting out and about as frequently as you can. And I do hope and pray that Rick Warren's book will help you find a new direction and purpose in this life's journey. Praying for you, my friend!

  4. Oh I am glad you got to visit with Sandy. Maybe all three of us can meet up in September when we go to Gulf Shores. We often go to Pensacola for lunch. Thank you for the verse about perfect peace. One of the reasons I took a blog break is that we are moving to a new home and I am overwhelmed, right now. The process started a week ago and it is nerve wracking. Plus we have out of town guests this week. Living on the wild side. Hugs, Barbara.

  5. Oh Barb, I had to chuckle when you said you could attend all the birthdays before reality hit. Glad you were able to attend granddaughter #3's day. How fun that you were able to meet Sandy and spend some time with her and Gus. Prayers and good thoughts to you.

  6. God is not done with you yet. He has a purpose for your days. In His time He will reveal and work in you to show you that. We are going to pray that all those little details of life are shown to you as He works. He does have it.
    Gus and I were so blessed by your visit. I truly hope it won't be the last. We need to walk on the beach and take some drives around here. You must see the cotton fields in late September to the north of here.

  7. What fun to get to visit with Sandy! She is a special blog buddy for sure! I'm glad you are getting out and staying active, it's so good for you! Enjoy your afternoon! Hugs, Diane

  8. How exciting that you got to meet Sandy in person!! I love meeting blogging friends in person! You are so right. The biggest challenge for me since I lost Joe is to figure out who I am without him. But I know both of us will figure it out and God will make it clear to us as we continue to move forward. God is in control. Love & hugs! xo

  9. Oh boy...that's good advice, "Give it to God and go to sleep". That's fun to meet another bloggy friend. It will be fun to hang out at the Bloggy corner of heaven where we can all finally meet up. Chuckle. That would be fun, though, don't you think? Blessings!!

  10. Happy Birthday to Lydia!
    Glad you got to meet another blog friend. I've had the privilege of meeting and praying with several blog friends. It's a blessed thing!
    God has a purpose for you, part of that may be the encouragement you give to those of us who read your blog.

  11. I've been keeping you in prayer...I am so glad you are out and about and meeting blogging friends. Not that I am widow, but I do work now at my old age (lolol)...and trying to find the right balance...and learning the word NO for my job is a complete different adventure...sigh. AND truthfully, trying to find me in the whole process, does that make sense?

  12. Oh how fun to meet Sandy and Gus. I really like your granddaughter's sign. We are not able nor meant to carry the weight of the world. A wonderful weekend to you and yours.

  13. Love reading your blog and seeing how you are progressing.
    I moved from Indy in March and family there has not seen me unmasked except Facetime...little boys here in Florida have now...almost all the family fully vaccinated including granddaughters in Indy...then we can get together...stay safe...

  14. I'm so glad you got to meet Sandy, Barbara! I somehow discovered Arlene's and Sandy's blogs about the same time (probably through stitching posts) and through them, discovered yours. I'm sure you two felt immediately at home with each other and like you've known each other forever. What a fun day! I'm so happy you are able to be so near some of your family, too, as your new life progresses. You definitely have a purpose--just ask any of those wonderful kids or grandkids :) Sending a hug and my wishes for a relaxing week ahead ♥