Saturday, October 23, 2021

The Lifter of My Head

grill work on the front of my house

 The enemy of my soul tried his best this week to erode what joy I have in this season of mourning but I am here to report he was unsuccessful. 

the demise of the car of a family member;
occupants are recovering with "only" bruises

There was a car accident of a family member, more deaths of family friends, another "ambush" of tears triggered by a memory, and of course, the national news. I will not elaborate any more or overstate the problems. Suffice it to say it's been a test to keep the chin up and the spirit strong. 

*note: the deaths mentioned above were not involved with the car accident

My help continues to come from the Lord. When my feet have been knocked out from under me, maintaining those good habits I wrote about in my last post have helped me.

What I am seeing with a fresh perspective is that God is absolutely true to His Word when we hold Him to it. When we read scripture with thoughtfulness, turning over in our minds what He is saying and considering how it applies to our current circumstances, He gives us comfort, instruction and a confirmation in our spirit that it is indeed Him speaking to us.

front porch decor

Now lest you think I am ambiguous about all this help coming from the Lord, I'll share an example.

"Raised on Sweet Tea & Jesus" magnet, 
a gift from Robin in Virginia

Meet my refrigerator. Whirlpool. He's got a water filter that needs to be replaced every six months or so.  We have a whole-house water filter, so when Beloved was here to oversee these things, he said we would not replace the refrigerator filter because the whole-house filter was taking care of that. 

I was content until sometime after he passed I came across information saying an old filter needs to be replaced because over time it deteriorates and can adversely affect the water quality.

I researched not using a filter at all (removing the current one) but of course there is a hole that needs to be plugged if I want to use the water dispenser in the refrigerator door (and the ice). More research informed me I could order a plug, which is what I did. It's called a Bypass Cap:

Google this with your refrigerator model number, etc.

But after installing it, I could get no water or ice in the dispensers. At the time that didn't really bother me since the people who use those features are not at my house very often. I bought ice cube trays and an ice bucket at Walmart and decided to be content with that.

BUT, the ice cube trays would not fit in the sections inside the pull-out freezer drawer of Whirlpool (without spilling the water), which meant they had to go to the garage freezer, many steps away and clearly very inconvenient.

The debate in my mind about all of this went on for weeks. I sorely wished Beloved were here to take the problem off my hands.

I finally decided to do the Big Girl Thing and buy a replacement filter for the refrigerator, thinking that would solve the water and ice dispenser conundrum and just deal with twice-filtered water (which is no problem, just more money spent than necessary). ALL my children are coming for Thanksgiving, so it was time to find better solutions.

A trip to Lowe's got me the filter and with some difficulty, even with the help of two Youtube videos, I got the thing installed. Hint: it's not quite as easy as the gal in the video does it.

But the water and ice dispensers were still not working!!!!

That's when my prayers got serious. I was irritated and at a loss as to what to do. I closed the refrigerator door and did something else for about 30 minutes, calming myself and trying to decide who to call on  for help (not wanting to call a plumber, you understand).

Eventually I began to fiddle with the thing again and by some miracle I got just a little more forceful with installing the filter and viola! Everything worked perfectly!!! I had been so afraid of breaking something that I was not using enough force to twist the filter into it's proper position. I now realize that was most likely the problem with the plug, too! 

Some of you may not be impressed with my story, but to me, it was a real breakthrough. PLUS, when this filter needs to be replaced, I think I'll go back to using the Bypass Cap instead of being tied to replacing the filter periodically. The whole-house filter has to be replaced from time to time. To replace only one of these filters instead of two seems the most thrifty way to deal with it.

The words of Psalm 3 bless me every single day:

LORD, how are they increased that trouble me!

many are they that rise up against me.

Many there be which say of my soul,

There is no help for him in God.

But thou, O LORD, art a shield for me;

my glory, and the lifter of mine head.

I cried unto the LORD with my voice,

and he heard me out of his holy hill.

I laid me down and slept:

I awaked; for the LORD sustained me...

When one lives alone after half a century of a marriage where problems both small and large are shared and tackled, the single life is an abrupt realization of how inadequate we can be by ourselves.

I have been downcast many times with problems of a very practical nature but the LORD has proven Himself to be "the lifter of my head" time and again!

Denver friends

Another blessing this past week was the visit of long-time friends from the Homeland (Colorado). Beloved and I moved to this town only 20 months before he died. Although we have wonderful neighbors, when he passed, we did not have a strong foundation of friends who had known both of us for a long time and who also shared our faith. It was a very special comfort and delight to me for these friends to drive cross country to see me, to hug me, to listen and to share in my grief over a man they have known for over twenty years.

The LORD has been faithful to be a "lifter of my head." I am thankful. 

Until next time, grace and peace.

P.S. Sharing this link for the 100th time again, because it blesses me so. It has become my theme song. I hear it playing in my head when I go to sleep at night, when I wake in the morning, and throughout the days.


  1. Oh, I so feel your frustration and I can only imagine how lost I would be with so many common place things that Hubby always takes care of, water filters, a/x filters, etc. I'm sure, like you, I could figure it out someway, somehow but............Always a joy to read your touching blog.

  2. Bless you, dear Barbara. You are dealing with many things and God is helping you step by step, day by day. So thankful your kids/family are ok from the car accident, but sad to hear about others who have recently passed away. Praying for all concerned. Oh, I can feel your frustration the ice/water filter situation. We haven't had to change ours yet on our new fridge. I'm wondering if it gives some kind of signal when it needs to be changed? I may need to read the manual. That would be a good idea. Thank you for the heads up. My hubby isn't quite as "handy" about such things as your Beloved was, and I am often the one to figure it out, but the older I get the less I like to figure out. Oh I am so glad you had some dear good "old" friends come for a visit. I understand what you mean about friends who have known you for so many years...there's a history there that goes beyond the superficial. How wonderful of them to travel to spend time with you. God is good. (((hugs))) to you my friend. You are still a wonder to many of us.

  3. I am so glad all was well with the wreck. I know that was beyond scary. I have to replace the filter in our refrigerator because it is such a wonky place that my dear larger husband just can not get to it without me cringing. I know exactly what you mean about to forcefully turn it. I didn't think mine was working either then I nearly had a heart attack watching Jeff try to get into that tight spot. I have learned how to do it and now it is my job. I have a big list of things that he does that I have no clue how to do. I found myself this morning watching a little more carefully how he did one job because I thought if I had needed to do that it might be a good idea to start paying attention. You have taught us that.
    I am so glad you had friends visit. I have thought many times about how y'all hadn't been in Florida that long, but a newer build surely does make things a wee bit easier on repairs.
    You have been in my thoughts a lot lately as I know you have some dates ahead to muddle through.

  4. How wonderful for your Colorado friends to come for a visit! Barb, I had to chuckle because I just had to wrangle with my ice maker and after YouTubing and fiddling, I got it to work again and was extremely proud of myself. Sometimes it is just the little things that somehow can make my day. I am so very sorry for all you are dealing with. Extra worry, extra pain. I am so sorry. I also care about you and send my love and prayers.

  5. Everything new can seem overwhelming when we are still grieving, Barbara; I can attest to that. But I'm so proud of you for sticking with the change of filter until it worked, knowing God was lifting you up through it all. And what a blessing to have old friends come to visit! The Lord certainly does know our needs before we ask.
    Hang in there, my friend!

  6. Oh no, sorry about the accident and the loss/death of friends. On a happy note, you and Terri were in my dreams this past week (grinning).

    You are so brave, Barbara, truly you are. I keep you and Terri in prayer.

  7. Glad you were able to spend time with your Colorado friends, Barbara! I cringed when I saw the car picture and immediately sent up a prayer for their well being before continuing to read. I am glad everyone is okay. While it isn't easy to take on tasks you haven't had to do in the past, you are showing us it is possible to do with some sweat, some tears and some faith. Thank you! Thinking of you this morning.

  8. More deaths…same here…just read a blog where the lady had Covid and husband died of it…how many more I have to wonder…glad you are learning to do things…I am so thankful as a teen when my soon to be husband taught me so much…comes in handy in later years…he continued throughout the years…

  9. I am so very sorry to hear of the death of friends/family. That vehicle looks. So much sadness seems to happening these days and YES, Our Lord is the lifter of our head. Praising Him today in the midst of a few things myself. Barbara, I am totally impressed with you being able to fix what needed fixing! As women, we are surely than we think at times. I am not so sure how I would handle things without Marty but I pray that I will be like you, face it and and tackle it as best as I could. Only God can see us through these times dear Barbara. You have been amazing to me and such a testimony of God's faithfulness. You have clung to God even when I am sure there's been times that you didn't feel you had the strength to go on. You are surely in my prayers and more than you know friend. Hugs and blessings, Cindy

  10. Now that's a wonderful song to have on your mind for sure. What a sweet visit from your friends from Colorado. I am always so timid about pushing too hard or twisting too hard. So glad you figured that out. Sorry about that accident and it was good to read there were only bruises. Yikes. I'm so glad to be part of a Bible Study on our trustworthy God in times like these we are experiencing in our country right now. God is good and in control. Happy to read your family will gather at your place for Thanksgiving. Hope this new week is starting well for you.

  11. I'm glad to hear that your family was okay. It's super that you were able to fix your refrigerator. Enjoy your day, hugs, Edna B.

  12. It is very hard when there are so many sad things happening all around us, and dangers. I'm happy your family is OK too. Take care of yourself and have a blessed weekend. Hugs, Diane

  13. Every big or little "new" thing you accomplish should make you so proud, Barbara! I know Tom would be proud of you as you make your way through grief. Stumbles and falls will come, but you are doing it your own way and in your own time and will come out strong and confident. Sending hugs your way ♥